Do you know what makes a person strongest? I am not talking about physical strength. I am not talking about the capacity to bear tremendous physical pain. I am talking about the capacity to endure a heart break. I know what you must be feeling- No! This is not just another story of a bad break-up. Unfortunately it was not a person who broke my heart. It would have been easier to accept my grief and move on if that was so.
I am not saying it is not possible now. But it sure is more challenging.
You see people don’t hurt you. Situations hurt you. Failures hurt you. Disappointment hurts you. It is easier to cope when you are disappointed in another person, because your grief has a face. At least you have a reason.
How does one cope when their disappointment is in themselves?
So coming back to my introductory question- Accepting failures makes a person strongest.
Failures and losses are an integral part of our lives. If not for them, we might not even value success at all.
It hurts when you pour your entire soul in something, and it ends up in a failure. I know the feeling. I know how it feels when you are hyperventilating, struggling for breath and demeaning yourself over and over again- because even though you worked hard, you are still at a loss.
You know what; I won’t tell you that you shan’t cry. I won’t tell you that you shan’t express your grief.
It is okay to feel broken. It is okay to just collapse and cry your eyes out. It is okay worry your head off. It is okay to seclude yourself from everyone. It is okay to want some time alone.
But it is not okay to give up.
Failures will knock at your door once in a while. Maybe more times than success will. And even though crying about it is okay, ceasing your entire life is not.
I know what you must be thinking- Better said than done. But do you have any other option?
A bad situation doesn’t change you for the people for whom you really matter and no matter how long your virtual friend list is- these people are really few in number. Whenever you feel like a failure- just close your eyes and talk to yourself. Don’t talk to anybody else because only you knew the kind of work you put into the task. Talk to yourself-,say things to yourself- I swear it works.
Nobody will remember your failure, but they will remember how you regained yourself.
Before they tell their kids about the relative who is earning millions, they will tell them about you. They will say, “Look at her (/him), she fell hard, but she always got up strong.” Because they know that before they achieve their dreams, their kids will have to face the harsh faces of life.
And once you accept your life, with her sad and ugly face, there is nothing more monstrous out there.
Nothing has the capacity to scare you.